Being forced to keep a baby that you would have otherwise aborted can be very painful. This is a reality for many teenagers around the world today. It happens to older women as well but it is much more common in teenagers. It was way more prevalent in the USA before “Roe Vs Wade” which was the bill that made abortion legal. Before that it was very frowned upon and many parents would not allow it and they also didn’t want their daughters giving up their lives to raise a baby so they forced their daughters to not only carry the baby to term but then made them give it up for adoption against their will. Sometimes it was for religious reasons, or for personal beliefs.
Some of these girls that are forced to put their babies up for adoption often form an attachment to the life growing inside of them and then fall in love with the baby especially after it is born. Then to be forced to give up the baby can be a very traumatic experience that stays with them for the rest of their lives. Many of these women when they are older and living on their own will try and fine their baby that they gave up so many years before. Some of them dream of having a relationship with the child. And in some cases that does happen but other times it doesn’t always work out as planned or idealized. Many kids who have been adopted do want to meet their mothers and families to find out about themselves and their family and history. Some others harbor resentments towards their birth mothers and want nothing to do with them. And then a lot of them fall somewhere in between those two extremes.
There are many ways and registries that both birth mother and child can use to try and contact the other and sometimes it might take a while until both are on board at the right time to see each other. The only way to know for sure is to try. With social media, it is becoming increasing easier to find and contact people.
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